Ron finished the tree trimming and we took a load to the transfer station along with the broken hose holder.

I made a package for Big Brother/Big Sister. We emptied the credenza and brought it outside, but they don’t take furniture, and I couldn’t find anyone else who wanted it. So, the credenza is in the basement, for Ron to study and maybe to fix.

I pruned three hydrangeas – four to go, including the front – and all the big roses; have the scars to prove it.

I set up the two new soakers in the vegetable and front corner gardens. Gave them a good watering along with part of the “U”. Ron set up the hose for another section a few minutes ago.

I had several conversations with Cape Cod Hospital and Cardio Specialists today. Someone dropped the ball: they were supposed to call Dr. Cobb for clearance because I’m anemic and they wanted to rule out internal bleeding. I’m told the stent procedure should be done in the next month, but no need to rush. Hope they are correct.

Ordered new batteries for the phones and the proper part to fix the front window.

Ed dropped by to say “hi”. We think we need to talk with Bonnie and young Ed about how they’d want to handle the mortgage if it came to that.

I broke off a beautiful Delphinium today, but will plant the roots anyway.

Finished bracing the Foxglove in the front.

Stella d’Oros have started blooming. Beautiful, love them.

Everything is so dry. No rain expected until Thursday at the earliest.

Ron bought two more soaker hoses today. We’re planning to place them plus two more in the rest of the gardens. Only way to go in conditions like this.

Ron put up two hornet traps here. I joined the new TruValue consumer club and got $5 off.

Ordered eye glasses, had a phone screen with the HR director at MBL. Stopped at Town Hall to see the archive staff but they weren’t in. Filled up the truck, it was down to the last 2+ gallons. Yikes.

Visited Candy, John and Scully. They are doing well. Candy drove me to Botello to help Ron who had locked his keys in the van. It was that sort of a day.

We went to the Senior Center for bagels and to Stop & Shop for food.

We dropped off tree parts and a bag of trash at the transfer station and paid a brief visit to Botello and to Edgewater.

More tree trimming; set up the Oriole feeder; read and ordered a copy of Peter’s article on troubleshooting for the Mac (excellent); made supper (grilled salmon and baby zuccini, vegetable and fruit salads).

Seems like that shouldn’t have filled the day, but I guess it did.

We took care of things at Edgewater for the last couple of days (Thursday through Sunday evening): trash, mowing, kitty, trimming bushes, etc.

Ron discovered a wasp nest the size of a softball in the wishing well. He sprayed it this afternoon. I’d just finished feeding Angel and cleaning out the litter boxes when the Cohens pulled in to the driveway. Glad they made it safely.

I made progress washing the stairway walls. One more time should do it. It’s tiring and hard on the back.

We did the transfer station today, changed the sheets, did laundry here. Nice supper with leftover baked fish, frozen vegetables, roasted asparagus from the garden, salad. Tried a blueberry muffin in a cup microwave recipe today for Ron.

We got hardware to raise the oriole feeder. Saw a pair of beautiful goldfinch in the veggie garden today. We have tomatoes!

Oh, yes, I planted annuals in a couple of little pots on the deck. Decided that’s a sign of affluence and funny, Laura had done something similar but on a larger scale with Stella d’Oros.

Our first timeshare week was June 2009. As far as I can tell, we used it that year.

In 2010, I did an internal exchange to September for Ron’s visit.

In 2011, we used the condo to entertain guests, Bonnie and Joe from California.

We used the condo again for Betsy and David.

I think we blew off our week in 2013.

This year, I got smart and put the week up for rental. I was desperate for a shower and we both wanted to cool off (it was in the high 80’s and humid yesterday), so Ron and I figured to check in last night, only to discover the great news that it was rented for four nights. We settled for a swim in the outdoor pool.

Fed Miracle Gro to everything but the grass.

Staked some flowers in the front with Ron’s help.

Replaced pansies in the trellis hanger with begonias and coleus.

Ed dropped by.

Ron did the lawn. We brought Ron’s summer shirts down from the attic. I put up the summer curtains.

Has felt like rain all day; getting foggy now. Great weather for work: cloudy, nice breeze, not too warm. Perfect for feeding.

Living room, kitchen, slider. Did some coding for Jim’s projects.

Father’s Day brunch: grilled sausage and a big omelet with cheese, red bell pepper, spinach, green onions, avocado and Mediterranean seasoning.

We put down another bag of mulch at Edgewater, stopped for ice cream at Sweet Caroline’s and did the transfer station run.

We went back for their lawn mower and Ron tried it out. Definitely needs looking at; we’ll drop it off tomorrow.

I finally planted the cukes and beets. Made room by digging up and transplanting some violets to the garden in front of the fence.

Ron picked up clam chowder for supper.

Saw two hummers, one in our yard and one at Sweet Caroline’s.

In my mind, the concept of forgiveness really allows the person basically to say, I’ve done everything that I can to repair this relationship, but there’s no way to do it. This person is just going to be painfully abusive to me, and so I’m going to learn to call it a day. Now, if you call that forgiveness, I would say that’s a reasonable outcome. But to say that everything can be repaired, and everything can be fixed and forgiven, is just not reasonable given the facts.

FRIEDMAN: I mean, the whole concept of forgiveness, it seems to me, is based on the idea that somebody who’s done something wrong to you acknowledges that and says, I’m sorry, and gives you an explanation – I was going through a terrible time; I didn’t know myself; I was wicked back then; I was using drugs back then. I was irredeemably bad. I want another chance.

But before you can forgive somebody, there has to be an acknowledgement of transgression. They have to be able to say to you, you know what? I really screwed up. I did a terrible thing, and I’m so sorry. I don’t even know how I can repair it. I mean, at least that’s a starting point. But to ask somebody who is the victim of abuse to simply give a carte blanche forgiveness, is a psychologically meaningless and potentially, really harmful task to set them.

Dr. Richard Friedman for NPR. Dr. Friedman has written about so-called toxic parents himself for The New York Times. He is a psychiatrist; he is also a professor of clinical psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College.

Raining this morning, really coming down right now.  Thank goodness!  It’s been too dry, even at Edgewater.  This will really help the strawberries.  We have quite a few growing beneath the violet leaves.

I’m so happy that we got the grass garden cleaned up and mulched yesterday.  Sorry that I didn’t get the beets and cukes planted.